Love to Spare

Love Challenge#2: Winners Announced Here!

Posted on 14. Apr, 2009 by Acooba.

Love Challenge #2 was directed at the men; 5 stepped up to the plate and answered the challenge: Ian, Roger, Albert, Gwynn, and Jeff. Thank you all for your responses, we enjoyed and appreciated your participation.
Before announcing the winners, I’d like to take a moment to share my thoughts on why this type of exercise [...]

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Love Challenge #2: No Thanks

Posted on 07. Apr, 2009 by Michael Scott.

This week’s Love Challenge is for the guys (again, you don’t have to be married to answer):
Okay guys: Your wife, Karen, doesn’t get along well with your mother. In fact, Karen always complains of terrible headaches after spending even a few hours around your mom. You, of course, love your mom and would like very [...]

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Love Challenge #1: Winners Announced Here!

Posted on 07. Apr, 2009 by Michael Scott.

Sorry for the late announcement on this. For some reason I thought we were supposed to announce the winners on Tuesday. Oops. I’ll do better next time - I promise.
So onto the winners then:
We got a lot of great responses (see Love Challenge #1). Thanks to all who participated.
I had planned to address what I [...]

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Get Ready for a Love Challenge!

Posted on 31. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

A few years ago, I did volunteer work with teens identified as being “at risk” for drug and alcohol addiction. My assignment was to spend 2 hours each week teaching a class of 25 “active” teens about dangers and alternatives to drug use. What a challenge it was!
My first few attempts at teaching the class [...]

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Love Challenge #1: The Curious Case of the SUV

Posted on 31. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

Okay, so the first week’s challenge is for the ladies (you don’t have to be married to answer):
Your husband (let’s refer to him as Richard) needs a new car. All of his buddies and coworkers are driving expensive SUVs. Even though you know Richard really wants an expensive SUV, there’s just no way the two [...]

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Black Marriage Day

Posted on 20. Mar, 2009 by Acooba.

The waning of March signals 2 things in our personal universe:

Spring is here; and,
It’s time for Black Marriage Day.

Black Marriage Day? What’s that? It’s a question we get a lot…usually accompanied by a bemused stare. This year we have a pre-emptive Black Marriage Day “Primer” to answer all the questions we usually get [...]

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The Sacred Vow

Posted on 18. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

I’ve never cared much for the pomp and circumstance of weddings, but marriage itself has always seemed magical to me. Indeed, when I see true and enduring love between two people I am filled with a sense of hope for all humanity. The following is a poem I wrote expressing this hope. It was written [...]

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True Brotherhood

Posted on 16. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

There’s a funny character who lurks around this blog site under the alias GetJef. If you’ve seen him, please don’t be alarmed, he’s just my brother (well, sort of). Jeff and I have no actual blood relations or family ties, our skin colors are vastly different, and we are ideologically worlds apart. Jeff drinks beer [...]

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The Language of Love

Posted on 11. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

There are lots of ways to carve up our world, to separate ourselves from others, and to discriminate between us and them. For example:
You do it all the time. You set yourself apart from others, you put your needs above theirs, you point out what you believe is inferior (wrong) about them, and you only [...]

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The Love Letter

Posted on 07. Mar, 2009 by Michael Scott.

Yesterday, Acooba showed me a love letter I had written to her back in 1994. At the time, we were 5 and half years into our marriage, had two young children and a baby, and (besides working) I was attending graduate school for Marriage, Family and Child Therapy. Needless to say our schedules were full. [...]

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How to Give Unwanted Advice

Posted on 27. Feb, 2009 by Michael Scott.

It’s easy to get carried away with concern for our loved ones. Often times, when we want the best for them, we are full of advice. Here’s a story that explains why we should be careful about how we give advice to someone who didn’t ask for it:
A young man happens to be browsing in [...]

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